For me, Living in Place is all about the writing life, and it’s pretty great, especially since the invention of the web, which allows me to connect with readers without even having to get dressed.
But the tension between the need for solitude and the pitfall of loneliness is real. There are even days when I read the Help Wanted ads and think about getting a clock-punching job. But I don’t, because I’m a writer, and learning to balance solitude and loneliness is part of the job.
So I write fiction and essays in the morning, and freelance in the afternoon, when my clients are boss. Since it takes me a long time to write a novel, the essays keep me connected to my readers, who I hold very dear. But the truth is, I can’t do this alone; we all get by with a little help from our friends. Here are some ways my reading friends can help me:
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I totally understand the balance part. I like to isolate myself because I get the most written in that time, I need the quiet and solitude, but then, days go by and I find I haven’t talked to anyone and I feel lonely. I need the experiences of life to have something to write about , but then I resent people when they crowd me. I guess I’m still looking for that balance, but I’m thrilled I’m not the only one, and that it’s a real thing other writers struggle with. thanks!
Deborah Lee Luskin says
You are NOT alone!
You may enjoy a post I wrote a few years back for the writing blog, Live to Write – Write to Live https://nhwn.wordpress.com/2012/03/20/solitude-versus-loneliness/
And one of the payoffs of all that time spent alone writing is then going public with it (as in PUBLICation), which connects you to your readers.
Thanks for writing – and good luck!